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Time is running out1 for my friend. While we are sitting at lunch she casually mentions she and her husband are thinking of starting a family. "We¡¯re taking a survey,"she says, half-joking. "Do you think I should have a baby?"

¡¡¡¡"It will change your life," I say, carefully keeping my tone neutral2. "I know,"she says, "no more sleeping in on weekends, no more spontaneous3 holidays..." 

¡¡¡¡But that¡¯s not what I mean at all. I look at my friend, trying to decide what to tell her. I want her to know what she will never learn in childbirth classes. I want to tell her that the physical wounds of child bearing will heal, but becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional4 wound so raw5 that she will be vulnerable6 forever. 

¡¡¡¡I want to describe to my friend the exhilaration22 of seeing your child learn to hit a ball. I want to capture23 for her the belly laugh24 of a baby who is touching the soft fur of a dog for the first time. I want her to taste the joy that is so real it hurts.
¡¡My friend¡¯s look makes me realize that tears have formed in my eyes. "You¡¯ll never regret it," I say finally. Then, squeezing25 my friend¡¯s hand, I offer a prayer for her and me and all of the mere mortal women who stumble26 their way into this holiest of callings. 

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