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This is a communications 1)seminar. Ah, I 2)tricked you. If I would have said, ¡°this is a communications seminar,¡± how many of you would have 3)showed up? Yeah that¡¯s what I was afraid of, two. Two instead of 300 okay. The reason this is a communications seminar is because I believe that communication is the key to your life. In fact you might want to start your notes with the following phrase, this is what the seminar is all about. Write down ¡°The quality of my life is the quality of my communication. The quality of my life is the quality of my personal communication.¡±

Here¡¯s what I mean by this. In order to have any experience in life and know whether it¡¯s good or bad, you have to communicate with who - yourself. You see the quality of your life is how you communicate to yourself. How many of you have ever had a relationship where somebody maybe left you. Anybody had that experience? Anybody here?

Now when that person leaves, you have several ways to communicate to yourself. The quality of your experience will determine how you communicate about that situation. You might say, ¡°I¡¯m not good enough so they left me.¡± Or you might say, ¡°Thank God they left so they made room for somebody who¡¯s right for me.¡± It all depends on the way you communicate to yourself. That will determine how you feel, how you act, how you behave in your future. So to me the quality of your life is the quality of your communication, number one with whom? Yourself. And number two with others.

Communication with others is what we all want. We want a sense of connectedness. see how many of you here would really like to make a major difference in the world? Can I see a show of hands? How many of you would like to lie on the beach and get 4)tan? Does that cause a problem sometimes? Like part of you working to make a difference and the other part is going, ¡°No, I want a tan.¡± Right? And you got this pole in between, right? And I¡¯m really assessed.

How many of you out there would like to be, like to, like be totally financially independent? Can I see a show of hands? Great. How many of you also feel like sometimes in order to do that it seems like it took away from your sense of appreciation of others or your 5)spirituality? Any of you had that experience ever?

You see but do you have to give both of those up? No, you can learn how to 6)integrate them, you can have the best of both worlds. How many of you would love to have a totally one-on-one committed relationship with someone totally focused and 7)monogamous? How many of you would like to have something like that? Great. How many of you get attracted to all kinds of people?

Ok, does this create a problem? What¡¯s it called ¨C ¡°inner civil war¡±. Right? And what we want to show you is how to resolve that because that¡¯s where the power is, the power comes when you know how to integrate yourself.

And as we work on that, the portion that you¡¯ll be getting of my communication consciously, will be the idea of the personal power of my background. That is if you look at human communication you¡¯ll find out that only seven percent of human communication is words.

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